Sunday Night Common Sense

I've been talking a lot with my homegirl Erika Lopez, and not just via emails, twitter, but on the telephone as well! We've reconnected in real life. That reconnection sends me to her early texts to reread them. Today's Common Sense comes from her Lap Dancing for Mommy: Tender Stories of Disgust, Blame, and Inspiration where she writes:

"What happened to all that CUNT positive thinking?"
pg. 1

Any answers?

Fighting Cholitas

I found this video as it is a part of a documentary about female Bolivian wrestlers. I wonder what this will do about the ideas of gender, performance, bodies as commodities, brown indigenous Latina bodies being viewed, if questions of sexual orientation and gender identity and expression will be projected onto them, and how/if women are finding new ways to work within a particular setting. What do you think? Here's what is rumored to be the trailer.

LOVE this video

I've got tons of ideas for future posts, so stay tuned! In the meantime, I LOVE this video of Ana Ortiz, Hilda from Ugly Betty, at a same-gender marriage rally this past weekend. Thanks to Blabbeando for posting this video (there's more, so check them out!).

Sunday Night Common Sense

I decided that after a week at a Sex Conference, being with an amazing homegirl, and just being in the desert, I wanted to quote a film where I saw my first sexologist of Color. That was in the Spike Lee film She's Gotta Have It. If you don't know the film you must see it to then understand what amazing female actor was cast in that film and who is now a strong Black woman on prime time television!

The main character Nola Darling states:

It's really about control, my body, my mind. Who was going to own it? Them? Or me? I'm not a one-man woman. Bottom line.

Sex Conference

I'm in the southwest, Arizona to be exact, for the AASECT Conference. This is the annual conference for sexuality educators, counselors and therapists. I'm seeing a homegirl from high school I have not seen since graduation, that's over a decade!

Then I'm at the pool everyday that I'm at the hotel, get a manicure, pedicure and facial. I've earned it after these several months of working! Plus my dogs are barking!

Then I'm going to this event at the Heard Museum



I'll write more as things progress. I'm crossing my fingers this conference will be surprising and filled with experiences that I appreciate and can learn and grow from professionally. That was part of what I had wanted for this year when I did my ritual with my homegirls the last time I came to AZ in February. If you want up to the minute information on what I'm doing, go follow me on twitter!

Sunday Night Common Sense

In the US, today is considered Mother's Day. I've found a great quote, but regardless of this being Mother's Day, I would have posted this. I started to reread the book David's Story by Zoe Wicomb, a Black South African woman writer. It is through this book that I am reminded of this quote:

This was the decade of brave baby girls with tightly bound guerrilla heads, which goes some way towards explaining the little-known fact that the Movement managed to recruit so many coloured women.

p. 9

Sex Work IS Work

If you've ever doubted that people who are sex workers actually do WORK, I want you to look at this video and try to tell me that there is not a level of discipline, athleticism, grace, organization, creativity, stamina, strength, and beauty in this work:





That's Felix Crane from Australia who is the 2009 Miss Pole Dance World held by the Miss Pole Dance UK and World Pole Dancing Competition. Read more about the 2009 World Pole Dance Winners.

I don't know about ya'll but I was mesmerized! It's almost like a clip from Cirque de Soleil .

via dlisted.