The Beautiful Ones

After having a convo with my homegirl Sparkle, I have realized there is some kind of pattern: men of Color are not valuing themselves, are not putting their healing as a priority, and thus are not willing to give themselves permission to accept and receive the love we, radical women of Color, have to give them.

The Beautiful Ones always smash the picture; always; every time.

So why do these beautiful men of Color that we love and adore limit their transformation and healing? Better yet, what does this resistance result in for each of us? How are we changed? Unchanged?

The Beautiful Ones you always seem to lose.

I hope these beautiful men of Color do not allow themselves to be lost. And when they are ready they find another radical woman of Color who is willing to fill them with all the love, support, and acceptance and nourishment they need but did not allow themselves to accept from us. I hope someone is present for them in the ways they need.

Maybe they know too well that our love is exactly what they need but are not ready to transform for whatever reason. Maybe they know exactly what they are doing by resisting us, but are unaware of the consequences.

You were so hard to find.

Maybe they have no idea how rare it is that radical women of Color like Sparkle and I are filled with such love, affection, loyalty, and desire for one person in such a way that they don't realize the amazing and unique gift it is.

I may not know where I'm going, I may not know what I need, One thing's for certain, I know what I want.

I want you.

We want you. But you got to want to be wanted. You got to want to transform and heal with us, not for us.

Doulas! Not Just For The Wealthy!

My homegirl Sparkle posted this video and I think it must be shared!

Taye Diggs on Jimmy Kimmel this week discussed how he and his wife chose to have a doula for the birth of their son. He also speaks about placenta encapsulation. As you may already know, I'm an abortion doula in NYC and Sparkle is a birth doula.

One of Sparkle's statements when she posted this was that doulas are not just for the wealthy! If you are planning to have a baby, or if you find yourself needing an abortion, look into the benefits of having a doula to assist you.

Sunday Night Common Sense (On Monday)

I was playing with my homegirls Sparkle and Mamita Mala and we had a sleepover at Casa Mala which is why the Sunday Night Common Sense is coming to you this Monday.

For some this is a holiday, for others it's a farce, and for some it's a reminder of painful rememories. Let's get the story right and not forget about the indigenous communities of which so many of us from the Caribbean are a part.